“Wanker is someone who drives a car badly.” (p40, Because We Are Bad, Lily Bailey).
Look Mr Irrational, I do not care what you say, I am starting this blog with that swear word.
You sure though? What if Lily reads it and then gets annoyed at you? What if potential copywriter employers read it and do not approve? For crying out loud man, what if you get banned from doing anymore blogs?
Look you, it is my favourite line in the entire book, it made me laugh out loud. Also, I have studied courses that say the headline and opening sentence are the two most important things in a piece of writing. I want a striking sentence that catches the eye. I am not having a beige opening sentence, cos we all know beige is boring!
Having had OCD myself for over thirty years (very severely at times), Because We Are Bad, is the book I have always been longing to read. I thought I was the only one who had once become enslaved to an imaginary friend/bully (I call mine Mr Irrational). Lily’s insight into her friend is simply one of best things I have ever read. Indeed, I would even go as far to say that this is the greatest emotional connection I have ever had with a piece of writing.
Written as a sort of memoir to her OCD, Lily details her life growing up with it. As already highlighted, some of her exquisite prose made me smile and laugh. Nevertheless, it was the way her words moved me that make this a standout read. It is a book full of sincerity, honesty, and most of all heart.
I had a bit of an eureka moment upon finding out Lily had fallen in love with her female therapist. I have only ever admitted this to my dear mum, but this happened to me too (with my last brilliant one). I literally worshipped the ground she walked on. Just as Lily beautifully explains in her case, I too always wanted our therapist and patient communications to be perfect. I also went on a bit of a grieving process when my therapy ended too.
What is so great about this book is that I really cared about Lily and her story. From very early on, I found myself really liking her. It turned into a right page-turner because I sat there willing her on as I read on. Just halfway through it and already I was pleading for a happy ending.
This book needs applauding for never appearing to lecture about OCD. It is like a self-help book, but without ever being very blatant about it. We learn tips along the way about what helped Lily manage her OCD. One I can think of is mind occupation (pauses and distracts irrationality). I do that too, I almost shouted out loud as I read it.
The second half of Lily’s story initially takes on a darker turn of events. It is extremely gripping stuff. Without spoiling it for those who have not read it yet, let’s just say her OCD and compulsions get worse before they get better.
Lily’s writing and how she expresses herself on the page, really is a thing that needs applauding. Throughout, it was like she was confidentially talking to me as a dear friend. I therefore really cared about her fate because of her honesty.
The ending is tremendous too. It is not over-clinched, it is not over-the-top, nor is it overly optimistic either. I think Lily gets the balance just right here.
A must read for anybody who has OCD or who has a loved one with it. Let me say this again loud and proud like I did at the start, this is the book I have always been longing to read. Thank you, Lily Bailey. 5/5.